ach, I want to watch this again.
From the Bad Astronomer…
The most common way for a black hole to form is in the core of a massive star. The core runs out of fuel, and collapses. This sets off a shockwave, blowing up outer layers of the star, causing a supernova. So the star’s heart collapses while the rest of it explodes outwards.
As the core collapses, its gravity increases. At some point, if the core is massive enough (about 3 times the mass of the Sun), the gravity gets so strong that right at the surface of the collapsing core the escape velocity increases to the speed of light. That means that nothing can escape the gravity of this object, not even light. So it’s black.
As for the second part… it’s possible that you wanted that girl and are projecting douchebag-ness on this other guy because you do not have the emotional capacity to accept that she chose him over you.
OK. #1. Look. No asshole thinks he’s an asshole. I mean, sure, there are some guys who go around saying “Hey, I’m a douchebag. Deal with it.” But overall, every guy thinks he is either a nice guy, or justified in his actions. So, I’m sorry to tell you this, it’s REALLY HARD TO TELL NICE FROM ASSHOLE AT FIRST. It takes time to get to know someone. And, often, a douchebag will hide his douchebaggery in the beginning because he’s excited about a girl and wants to make her happy. Then, eventually, his dick tendencies creep back in.
#2. Our guy friends aren’t totally honest with us. They just don’t want to betray their bro code or whatever. I’ve been warned by a friend about a guy (our mutual friend) ONCE. He said “He always ends up looking like the asshole.” This was my friend’s way of saying “He doesn’t treat girls very well and they end up pissed off.” I, naive and young, thought that meant “He looks like an asshole, but he’s really a nice guy.” Look, you dudes need to break the bro code and give your friends who are girls REAL WARNINGS about your friends who are douchebags. If you don’t, then you can’t whine about how blind we were to date them OR about how we keep showing up on your doorstep in tears. If you had warned us, we might not be standing there with smeared mascara and a bag of donut holes.
#3. Nice guys don’t make a move. Or if they do it takes forever. Assholes do. I’m sorry, it’s a fact. If you want the girl, make a move. If she rejects you, accept it and move on with your life. Stop blaming HER and acting like she’s some kind of moron for picking wrong. Accept rejection gracefully. ALSO, you might be surprised. If you make a move, she might go for you! How will you know until you try? Honestly, I’m really tired of actual sweet guys sitting around complaining about how girls like assholes instead of going out and actually ASKING GIRLS OUT. I know rejection is hard, but you don’t have much right to complain if you don’t even try.
